# Letting Go / Softening

## Video

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## Guided Practice

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## Practice Visualization

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## Overview

<table><thead><tr><th width="177"></th><th align="center"></th></tr></thead><tbody><tr><td>What</td><td align="center">Our return base which is based on releasing excessive effort</td></tr><tr><td><strong>Benefits</strong></td><td align="center"><ul><li>Independent happiness i.e., based on letting go</li><li>Cultivates Contentment on which virtues are facilitated</li><li>Decondition Vices</li></ul></td></tr><tr><td><strong>Instructions</strong></td><td align="center"><p><strong>Phase 1 - Bodily Softness</strong></p><ol><li>Recognize Effort</li><li>Release Effort</li><li>Enjoy &#x26; Enchant with the Release of Effort</li><li>Repeat</li></ol><p><strong>Phase 2 - Mental Softness</strong></p><ol><li>Recognize Effort</li><li>Release Effort</li><li>Enjoy &#x26; Enchant with Release of Effort</li><li>Repeat</li></ol></td></tr><tr><td><strong>Daily Life</strong></td><td align="center"><ul><li>Curious about any effort that arises within you and if desired release and enjoy</li></ul></td></tr><tr><td><strong>Consider</strong></td><td align="center"><ul><li>Offering > Forcing: Create the conditions that increase the likelihood of release, relaxation, calm rather than approaching of forcing the body and mind to become a certain way  </li><li>Opportunities > problem: Nowhere to get to: Every phase is an opportunity to improve, to learn</li><li>Take Advantage of the Pleasure and Joy: Emphasize the pleasure, independent of it's duration or intensity. This will cause your practice to be more enjoyable and accelerate habit change via rewarding your mind for letting go. </li></ul></td></tr><tr><td><strong>Progress</strong></td><td align="center"><ul><li>Increase in recognizing effort within body &#x26; mind</li><li>Increase in ability to release effort</li><li>Increase in ability to enjoy releasing of effort</li><li>Increase in automatic releasing </li><li>Decrease in frequency and intensity of arising of effort<br></li></ul></td></tr><tr><td><strong>Acknowledgement</strong></td><td align="center"><a href="www.midlmeditation.com">MIDL</a><br><a href="/pages/srqjd23vfpFSeBwSrJwF">Curiosity</a></td></tr></tbody></table>


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